Thursday, December 29, 2011

There is No Such Thing as Perfect Timing

Hi Everyone! I hope you had a fabulous Christmas celebrating with family and friends remembering to relax and take time for yourself. I'm holding my promise to you of posting more frequently than I have been.

Since we're just 48 hours away from ringing in 2012, I thought it was appropriate to share the importance of action vs. perfection. How many times I haven't promised myself that I'll get back on a 5-day per week gym schedule when I 'have more time' to commit to it or that I'll paint and redecorate our master bedroom when I have a certain amount of money saved up to do so, I have a list of other promises that sound just like these. The truth is that ALL goals consist of mini milestones, no matter how small those steps might be. Momentum is a beautiful thing, each day presents an opportunity to move in the direction of what we desire most. I love this quote above because it reminds us that there really is never a 'perfect' time to do anything in life.

Several years ago, when a colleague-friend of mine found out I had recently got engaged she insisted on one piece of advice-don't hold off on having children by waiting for the 'perfect' time. She appeared sad as she recounted the years she had put off doing that very thing herself in search of that ultimate moment when they might be ready, would have the right amount of income and size of home for baby. After spending years on this quest, the time never made itself known and after many frustrating years, she found out that her insistence on the ideal conditions had left her dream unfulfilled. Every time that I find myself guilty of heading down the same path thought-wise, I remember her advice to me.

Don't let your dreams slip away because you are waiting for the 'perfect' moment to pursue them! Start now by creating your plan of action, schedule small appointments with yourself each day or week to work towards what you want to accomplish most.

Truly the BEST is yet to come! I wish you the greatest success and fulfillment in all you do for 2012! :)

Happy New Year Lovelies! XOXO


Thursday, December 15, 2011

Staying True to Yourself

Hi Ladies! Wow, has it really been over a month since I last blogged? I promise to not let so much time go by before the next post! I've been having some technical issues with both of my laptops. While I can't say that anything extremely profound has taken place over the past few weeks accomplishment-wise, I have been working on a lot of small projects and today's message has been on my heart to share for a while now, I just haven't made the time to sit down and write. Upon waking from a dream I had the other night highlighting me as the only one who stood my ground (although it wasn't the most comfortable option) and did what was right for me amongst a group of about 30 other ladies who chose to go with the flow and not 'offend' anyone, I was reminded to get this message out so I hope it will bless someone.

One of the most important characteristics of a classy woman is her desire and ability to stay true to herself. Whether it be her faith, appearance, career, relationships, family, etc., her confidence level and purpose in life are not only intimately linked to doing what is right for her, they are the very cornerstones of why she is able to remain steadfast and true. When you know what your purpose is in life, you have the confidence to say no to anything that derails your plans for success and that which is not congruent with your mission.

In a world where people often fight for your time, attention and sometimes your money, it's important to do what is right for you to avoid falling prey to fulfilling everyone else's wishes but your own. While it's a joy to do things for others and lend a helping hand, it is the women who are most willing to step up to the plate that generally get asked repeatedly and then sometimes fear saying 'no' in an effort to avoid upsetting or hurting anyone that has come to rely on them. This need to be a "yes woman" can hinder your own progress in life and can leave you feeling worn out and resentful later. The best way to overcome being a yes woman is to learn the art of saying no. I'll be sharing more on this topic in the coming weeks including providing some sure-fire responses to those that insist that you help them, help other family members or a particular cause/organization.

In the words of a friend, who is the king of resisting other people who attempt to put their 'map' on him 'Not Every Need is a Calling.' This statement confirms the mindset of a classy woman that not every need that others have of her to do, donate to, volunteer for, or take on are in fact her calling in life. I'm not suggesting that we should all rebel against anything that anyone asks of us in an effort to always get our own way and avoid helping others, but it is a reminder that in order to become our best self we need to exercise our gifts, talents and passions using them to the fullest blessing others along the way while fulfilling our life's purpose, whatever that may be.

Peer Pressure. It's a word that brings reminders of high school days and the thought of experimental years but it is something that is alive and well today in our adult life, maybe even more so than it was back in those teen years. We are bombarded with TV messages, ads on the internet and radio commercials that suggest that we are are missing out if we don't have the latest smart phone or tech gadget, designer shoes, anti-aging serum, shiny new luxury car, the list goes on! We are constantly being influenced by not only the media but also our own friends, family members, colleagues and neighbors to have the best and 'fit in'. Instead of allowing others to define those things for us, we need to be sure we know who we are, what we stand for and what is in fact most important to us.

The only real way to know yourself in a greater way, so you can stay true to who you are, is to spend time alone with yourself. Think of who you are today, what you've accomplished, what you love about yourself, what you would like to change and the ways that you can get there. Also meditate on what is most important to you at this moment. What do you dream of? What makes your mind race with excitement? What makes you feel fulfilled? What makes you feel uncomfortable? What things or people do you tend to say yes to even though you would love to say no?

Here are some tips to Staying True to Yourself by Cari Vollmer

1. Value your SELF and your CHOICES. When you do, others will too. OWN the choices you make in your life. When you doubt yourself, others will doubt you. When you believe in yourself, in time, others will believe in you too.

2. Opinions. Realize, opinions are more about the person giving them then they are about you. Remember each person sees the world only as they can see it. This doesn’t mean they are right, better, or smarter than you. They are simply different, have a different set of values, beliefs and life experiences. Their opinions may be valid, or invalid. Ultimately, it’s up to you to decide how outside opinions fit your life.

3. Take time off. Too many people telling you what they think? Take time for yourself. To hear the whispers of your heart you have to be quiet and listen closely. You can’t hear what your heart wants YOU to hear if you drown it out by giving others too much “air” time in your life.

4. Know yourself.
Be willing to deepen your sense of self. Create a personal philosophy for living. Know your values and what you care about most. Doing so will increase your confidence and how people look at you.

5. Set boundaries. Some people just go too far. Sometimes it’s OK to respectfully listen but it’s also OK to set boundaries for areas of your life that are off limits.

6. Stand by YOUR side. Others may not be there for you when you most need them so you have to be there for yourself. Trust yourself and be willing to stand up for what you believe in.

Such wise words from Cari, the first point is my favorite!

If others cannot accept you as you are or 'get' why you operate your life the way you do, it's really not your problem-they don't need to understand you. There is such a joy, confidence and feeling of liberation when you remain faithful to what's most important to you and resist those that may try to change you or cause you to deviate from who you were born to be.

What areas of life do you find most challenging to remain true to yourself?

Also, come join our conversation on Facebook where I've been posting regularly with daily doses of uplifting messages and quotes to inspire you. I look forward to chatting with you there soon! ;)

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