Wednesday, March 7, 2012

Etiquette for Quitting Your Job Gracefully



Over the years as I've worked for various companies it's been interesting to watch as certain individuals make their exit from a company and how they handle themselves.

As I find myself in this very situation at the moment of moving onto greener pastures (and it's one that most of us will deal with at one time or another) I wanted to share the proper etiquette of leaving a company with style and grace.


1. Giving Notice- I don't know of a single employer that wouldn't be thankful that you gave the appropriate amount of notice. Two weeks is the standard however other jobs do require more time to fill your position. Be sure to review your company's handbook if you are unsure and give as much notice as you possibly can. It's also appropriate to provide a letter of resignation, which leaves things on a positive note as you thank the company for the opportunity and share how you've grown career-wise.

No matter how stressful or horrific your working environment might have become for you, it's not okay to just stop showing up or arrive in the morning announcing on the spot that you are quitting. Usually such declarations are emotional ones that aren't always thought through. Sleep on it if you feel this way (I've been there a couple times myself where I've felt like walking out but I pressed on and found myself there weeks/months later making a much more dignified exit when the time came).

 Sometimes in life we have the best intentions but a wonderful opportunity presents itself with time limits. Do your best to gain as much time as you can before jumping ship, letting the new employer know that you pride yourself in being respectful and professional. Given that they'd probably prefer the same level of respect, they should be able to work with you. If not, (depending on your role and degree of responsibility) you may wish to put together a small reference book or manual to make it easier for the company and the new employee who will fill your shoes. At the end of the day it's your future, so don't let a great opportunity pass you by if a current employer is giving your grief over not quite providing the full notice. Nothing is perfect in life, know that you did all that you could.


2. Keep Quiet About Quitting- It's hard not to share great news when you land the job of your dreams but it's best to keep things hush hush around other employees until you tell your boss. Should word get out and it is not from you firsthand, it will create uncomfortable interaction with your boss and it is not at all professional. Plan in advance how you'll share your news, rehearse if you have to and create talking points so you don't end up rambling or saying something that you might be unhappy with later. Your message should be consistent across the board. In other words, don't tell your colleagues one thing and your boss another.


3. Business as Usual- One of the most disappointing things I've witnessed is colleagues that have given notice and even though they are still on company time, they choose to slack off; act as if the company's rules don't still apply to them, wear overly casual or inappropriate work attire, rack up expenses or steal office supplies. I've also noticed that some show up late and call in sick multiple times when they are not to take time off before their new job and generally take on a 'do as little as possible' attitude, particularly if they grew tired of the company or their role.

Being a professional, elegant woman means ending your time with the same work ethic that you came in with. The classy woman is hardworking, she represents the company and herself well at all times and doesn't draw too much attention to herself after making he intentions to leave known. She avoids spending hours of precious work time gossiping and discussing her transition with colleagues. There is nothing wrong with sharing some details about the new job with a very close co-worker that one lunches with daily, but it must kept outside of the office and only if it is someone that can be trusted to be discrete.



4. Exit Gracefully- Within many companies it's not uncommon to have a boss want to sit down with you for an exit interview.  They may be curious why you are leaving, some may even ask what they can do to change your mind so you’ll stay and may offer you a salary increase, etc. (I've experienced this a few times in the past, which is always a nice compliment). It's best to keep things on a high note. Even if you and your peers or management did not see eye-to-eye, this is not the time to tell your boss how you really feel. Your final impressions are everything and linger on long after you're gone, so keep it short and sweet and to the point. In the age of LinkedIn and other career building and social networking sites, it may be to your advantage to keep them in your corner for future related opportunities.




5. Focus on the Positives- In most job transition scenarios there isn't much time other than perhaps a weekend between your old job and your shiny new opportunity. Be careful not to carry baggage or negative energy to the new company if things didn't end the way you had hoped. Take everything wonderful that you've learned and use it to your advantage. Perhaps the company was often unprofessional or disorganized but offered great sales training. Be thankful for what you received and what that previous opportunity offered. Perhaps it was a job that pushed you to the limits in every conceivable way, however it likely prepared you in a greater way for the one you'll be moving onto next or something else further in time. There are so many areas of personal development and growth from time management, networking, customer relationships, business relationships to communication skills, and the list goes on. Make a list of what you learned and are grateful for. Even if you did not feel challenged and disliked the position, be thankful for the paycheck it provided.

Be sure to thank anyone that you've worked with who helped you along the way, made your life easier (ie: your assistant) and those that made your working environment a positive or happy place to go into work (if it was).  In my remaining time at my current job I can think of several individuals who made me laugh regularly and those that made the not-so-great days at work so much better. One lady in particular who calls me her 'work BFF' will be getting a big hug on my last day. It's so lovely to have met someone that in the past 7.5 months I can call a sweet friend.

I'd love to hear how you gracefully transitioned to a new position, company or how you may have made it easier for the person filling your shoes upon your departure.



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Tuesday, February 14, 2012

Love isn't Complicated



It was never intended for us that love be complicated, or filled with expectations and grandiose plans on one particular day. We were meant to love each other unconditionally every day as He first loved us. Here are some simple thoughts for your day.....



 "Owe no one anything, except to love each other, for the one who loves another has fulfilled the law." ~Romans 13:8


"Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God."
~1 John 4:7





Today hubby and I are relaxing, having a low-key kind of day and I wouldn't have it any other way.
Wishing you all a wonderful Valentine's Day surrounded by those who love you. :)

Here's what I was up to the past few years on Feb.14th. Check it out by year: 2011, 2010, 2009. Last year's post was my favorite, a story told in pictures.

XO



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Wednesday, February 8, 2012

Behind Every Gentleman is a Lady



As Valentine's Day approaches I've been thinking about love and relationships. Some say that we get what we give in life while many are convinced that we attract what we are. Others like Oprah and Maya Angelou through experience have learned that, "We teach others how to treat us". I believe these are all true statements.

How we communicate with those around us (in particular the men in our lives) shows them how we would like to be treated. It also provides a clue as to what we value (and if we value and respect ourselves at all). While it is not our responsibility per se, as women I believe our actions & behavior prompt a man's desire to be more chivalrous and refined. If this is true, we hold great power with our actions and words to positively transform a large population of men who have forgotten what it truly means to be a gentleman. 



What do YOU think? The image above is what I posted on Facebook today and the comment/question that I posed, I've never seen so much feedback in just one hour! Pop by and see for yourself. Now, I'd love to hear your thoughts and personal experiences by leaving a comment below or feel free to join the conversation with us on our Facebook Page.

I don't know about you but with the man in my life, I've learned that when I shower him with love, I get it back; when I show an increased level of respect, I receive more in return; when I make time for him, he sets aside some time for me also; when I demand more of myself to be my best for him, he raises the bar for himself also to be his best for me. Of course the opposite of this is true as well. Ladies, let's be leaders because behind every gentleman is a lady, whether it be his wife, mother or girlfriend.
 
Wishing you a wonderful rest of your week! :)




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Thursday, January 26, 2012

Take Chances to Make Advances


My husband's motto in life is, "If you don't take chances, you can't make advances". You see he's a risk-taker, he's the kind of guy that REALLY puts himself out there and isn't afraid to make mistakes. I love that about him, in fact I wish to be more like him in that regard. We're wired a bit differently. I'm the Type-A who likes to plan trips by making lists and crossing off each item as it goes into the suitcase, organize CD's alphabetically and lining all my ducks perfectly in a row while he's all about figuring it out along the way, he'll cross any bridges while he comes to them . In terms of work opportunities I like to over-analyze and plan for a whole slew of possible outcomes, obstacles and scenarios. This analytical mind of mine can be a wonderful thing sometimes but many times it is the very thing that holds me back too.

Lately, I've noticed in several areas of my life, whether it be re-decorating my office or preparing for a meeting that I spend way too much time trying to plan to have things run perfectly smooth and avoid mistakes that often times I never get the project off the ground and when I do it isn't always in the most timely manner. In life we cannot plan for everything, and dare I say that is the very JOY of life-not knowing how everything will turn out in the end!

Last week I got a call about an opportunity that was both exhilarating and nerve-wracking all at the same time. Thinking of the possibilities made me giddy knowing that it could be potentially life-changing but taking a big step into an unknown world made me feel fearful and I caught myself trying to find a way out of it quickly as to avoid any possible failures or unpleasant outcomes. I kept thinking, "what if I'm not what they thought they were getting", "what if I don't perform in the way they had hoped for" and then I came to my senses and reminded myself that I didn't go looking for this opportunity, it came knocking on my door. All we can ever do is our best by preparing in advance and being ourselves once we're there and forget about the rest. When we live that way we can never lose in life. Two summers ago, I wrote this post, clearly I was a little more fearless at the time!



As much as I sometimes fight with my mind over taking such chances, it is when I embrace them wholeheartedly and put myself out there and try something new that I'm most proud of myself. Even if it doesn't go exactly as planned, taking a big leap in life is half the battle. These are the past successes that tend to stand out in my mind when reviewing the previous year in preparation for the next. I truly believe that the greatest rewards in life come from taking the biggest risks.

This year, although it's not going to be easy for me, my focus is to live outside of my comfort zone. I don't want another year to go by and wonder what more I could have accomplished or at least attempted had I not let fear get the best of me. It's really about mind over matter.



How about YOU? Are you with me? Any other Type-A ladies crazy enough to make such a declaration for 2012? One thing is for sure, our lives will never be the same!  :)



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Sunday, January 1, 2012

A Fresh Start


One of the things I enjoy most about ringing in the new year is the fresh beginning it provides. Every year on New Year's Eve day I reflect on my most proud accomplishments, the things I really enjoyed spending my time doing most as well as my goals that never came to be so I can figure out how to make them a reality the next time around. I think it's important to celebrate our successes but also learn from our mistakes so we can plan better for the future. As Oprah and Maya Angelou always say, "When we know better, we do better".

This year has been an interesting one, I've learned more about myself in this past year than I probably have in the last five. It is the first full year I spent alone in our home as my hubby pursued his Master's degree several states away at NYU. With that brought both challenges and triumphs as I realized many areas in which I was stronger than I knew myself to be. It also presented areas that I am weaker in and need to change my mindset on.

This year I also put my design business on hold and found full time work elsewhere to survive the struggling economy while still allowing myself to be creative with a few e-design jobs here and there. It hasn't been easy working for someone else again but when I prayed and asked the Lord 'why this job, why now?' of the many I interviewed with, I felt and heard the word 'discipline'. Apparently I needed discipline after years of working for myself from home. Sometimes in life, things happen not because of what we want, but rather what we need.



While I don't make resolutions, I do always create a fresh set of goals for myself. I've noticed over the past few years that I've created laundry lists of all the things I would love to accomplish and every year I fall short on many. I believe in dreaming big and shooting for the stars but sometimes when we create too many goals, we overwhelm ourselves and then instead get very little accomplished. So, this year I've made 3 key personal goals for myself that I believe are doable, but still enough of a stretch to keep me challenged. ;)

Like every classy woman, I'm constantly trying to improve myself and I've discovered some areas in my life that need the rough edges smoothed so I'll be focusing on those too to become a better me. One of those areas will be working to become a more patient person (with both myself and others, especially hubby). I also need to let Paul rub off on me a little more in the spontaneity department. I love to plan and organize, a natural born type A., however, I'm convinced that lightening up and trying more things that scare me will be key to enjoying life in a greater way. One of my downfalls is procrastination over things I don't enjoy and I want to change that this year. The time I spend thinking about how much I don't enjoy doing a particular task and distracting myself with something more interesting is the time I could have just completed the task in the first place. I'm not going to burden myself by expecting perfection, any progress is a beautiful thing!

What are your goals for the New Year?




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