I hope you all had a truly fabulous holiday season! Happy New Year! Wishing you a joyful and prosperous 2015. We enjoyed a very low key Christmas and NYE in since having a toddler makes things a bit tricky but I wouldn't have had it any other way. While I love getting all dressing up and spending time out with friends, a quiet evening in was perfect for us after holiday busyness.
I wanted to take this moment to say THANK YOU to everyone who has followed along here as well as via my social media channels. I'll be the first to admit that my posts have been anything but consistent this year so I appreciate all of you loyal readers who have stuck around. I have plans to revive this blog with a lot more new content and the posts will be far more regular. I'm still just as passionate about the classy woman message as ever before so I've slowly been working to create a new schedule that allows me to get back to writing, something I really love. Thank you for being patient with me! :) XOXO
Every year around this time (usually a few days before New Year's Eve) as many do, I sit down with pen in hand during a peaceful part of my day and reflect on the current year writing down what went well, recounting my favorite moments, meditating on what I was most proud of, thinking deeply about what I could improve upon and how to make it a reality, pinpointing the goals that didn't quite happen the way I had planned and brainstorm how the next year will turn out differently. It's my little synopsis of how the year went down. It helps me to focus going forward. I'm not big into "resolutions" but I do try to create realistic, attainable goals and Jan.1st is the perfect reset button, it's a fresh start and chance to do things differently.
I can honestly say that 2014 was not my favorite year, it was a lonely one for me in many ways but I was thankful to get to visit my closest family and friends this year making two flights with Lily. A few circumstances challenged me in many ways that took me outside of my comfort zone at times (which always feels terrible in the moment but I know is SO necessary to continue to grow as a person and develop character). This year, I plan to make some big changes. Some have been a long time coming while others are smaller and have surfaced recently given new circumstances within my 'still new' role as a mother.
This year, I've decided to focus on 3 specific main goals. I have several smaller goals in mind too such as being more spontaneous and not having to plan things out so much, making more time for fun outings and making more time for mini trips such as weekend getaways to explore our own state (Florida) and neighboring states. I tend to get carried away with lists, I could probably write down 30 goals but the reality is I'm much more apt to stay on track when I keep it short + sweet with just a few that are truly going to impact multiple aspects of my life. These are the ones that I believe will truly affect my year in a transforming way if I am able to stick to them daily.
1. Complain Less-As much as I try to be grateful even during the biggest storms of life counting even the smallest blessings (and have even written an article about how Complaining isn't Classy in the past), this particular year I found myself griping more I'm not proud of it. In my mind I know what triggered the feelings which created the need for me to share what displeased me but at the end of the day there are never any good excuses for complaining-ever. In the words of Maya Angelou, "If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude. Don't complain." Wise words indeed! Besides, complaining affects those around us and is such an unattractive quality that breeds more negativity. This one was hard to admit publicly and embarrassing to share here given the very topic of my blog, but the first step to making a change is admitting you have a problem, right? I'm going to take it day by day and week by week.
2. Spend More Time Doing What Makes Me Most Happy - For me, I'm am absolutely happiest when I'm creating which I why I chose to become an Interior Designer. I've always been this way whether I'm writing, decorating, designing, styling, trying out a new recipe or taking photos in an new and artistic way. I realized a big part of why 2014 was not my favorite year was that I have forgotten to make time for myself and the these very things that make me the most happy. Somewhere between managing our home, running my business part-time while caring for our daughter full time as a stay-at-home mother to her (nearly 6 months of which was done solo while Paul was working in China) making her my absolute top priority, I lost sight of what was truly fulfilling for me. Even once Paul returned and I had a free evening or an hour to myself, I was buying diapers/wipes/baby clothes, cleaning the house or doing a grocery run. I've started to delegate more now that my husband is here trying out various schedule ideas so he can help out and I have promised myself not to waste my freedom of quiet time washing dishes or folding laundry. I'm ready to get this part of me back that brings peace, joy, fulfillment, meaning and a sense of accomplishment to my life that are all essential to achieving a balanced and happy life.
3. Stop Procrastinating- My whole life for as long as I can remember I've been a procrastinator (when it comes to things I really don't want to do) and it's never served me well, whether it filing taxes the day of or researching a new healthcare plan, when it's not something I'm excited or passionate about, it gets put on the back burner over and over again in favor of more creative endeavors or easier tasks that I can cross of my to do list (I told you I like lists). ;) Yet, no matter how painful the outcome from being a procrastinator, again and again I find myself putting things off and then scrambling to get them done at the last minute just in the nick of time. I remember doing this with school projects in high school and even in College. I'd always get everything done but I'd be exhausted after and always felt I probably could have done an even better job if I had just started sooner. I've realized many times how it affects various areas of my life in a profoundly negative way so this year I'm promising to do better in this area by tackling the very things I least like right away before I have a chance to talk myself out them. There really is no time like the present!
Now, I'd love to hear what you're working towards this year! Feel free to share in the comments below. Do any of my goals resonate with you? Have you lost your way in one of those areas too or maybe you've overcome those challenges in which case I'd love to hear any tips you have that helped you become successful in those areas to give me some ideas along the way.
Thanks for Reading!