Thursday, April 17, 2014

A Classy Woman Doesn't Comment on Everything



Some speak because they feel they have something truly valuable to add to the conversation while others share their personal experiences, opinions and advice when they are with someone they feel they can relate to or help, then there are those who don't know when to stop talking and feel everything requires their personal commentary, leaving little mystery and lacking discretion. 

As we grow and mature over time, we will realize that there is great value in remaining silent sometimes and just taking things in whether we are a student in class, on our first date, interviewing for a promising job opportunity or mingling with others at a dinner party. I don't know about you, but sometimes I find it interesting to just 'people watch'. See how people interact, react, initiate conversation, etc. I also learn a lot from the people who always feel the need to comment, it says a lot about who they are. Although their intentions may be good, it can reveal their insecurity, pride, ego and more. 

We gain so much more when we are curious and ask questions and listen for answers vs. feel the need to say something, anything, just to be included. We must be especially mindful of this in today's social media age where everyone is encouraged to comment and share their opinions although it's not always warranted.

Thanks for Reading!

XO


12 comments:

  1. Great Read! Thanks for sharing! and welcome back!

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    1. Thank you, Sara! :) It feels good to be 'back'. It's been a challenge with a little one to blog consistently the way I would like but it always feels good when I get the opportunity!

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  2. There's a woman in my office who would do well to read this. At least a few times a week she comes out of her office to include herself in a conversation taking place somewhere else in the building, because the original conversation has a discrepancy she needs to correct, as she knows everything. She reminds me of a good topic for another post: when someone asks how your weekend/vacation/event was, they're not asking for a play-by-play of the entire thing, they're just being polite. "Great! Thanks for asking!" is the preferred response!!

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    1. Thanks for sharing, Sylvie! Yes, that is another great point and topic! Many times conversation is done in passing, only meant to be polite, not an opportunity for someone to go on and on in great detail about their weekend, evening, etc. Happy Weekend to you! :)

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  3. I needed this! I come from an opinionated family and I need to remind myself I don't need to offer my opinion on everything. Not easy though.

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    1. Hi Rachel, I'm so glad that you found this post helpful! That is always my goal when I write posts. :) We are all a work in progress, myself included. Sometimes too, when we are passionate about a particular topic, it's easy to get caught up in commenting, defending, etc.

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  4. Another inspiring post! I've been reading for a while but haven't posted. I recently tweeted my thanks and I truly mean it. For a soon to be college grad, at 21, this is really helping me to refine myself in many ways. A lot of this will be helpful since I want to be an event planner as well.

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    1. Thanks Shalyse! I just saw your tweets today. :) I'm happy to hear that the posts are helping you as you refine yourself. Wishing you the best of luck as you prepare to become an event planner.

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  5. Regular reader of you blog but first time commenting I think :) This "
    We gain so much more when we are curious and ask questions and listen for answers" is very profound, thanks for sharing.

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    1. Thanks for taking the time to comment, Ngozi! :) You're welcome, I'm glad you enjoyed it.

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  6. thanks for sharing your opinion! I couldn't agree more with your thought.

    Hope you have a great day!

    xx,
    felishmichelle.blogspot.com

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  7. For a such Ambitious and passionate women, this may find it hard to overcome. Me too was so tempted overtimes to included myself in some debates, which is unnecessary. That's right this dealings with pride. And pride is best buddies with insecurities.


    Xx
    www.lilshelullabies.link

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