Friday, August 14, 2009

How to be a Grateful Guest

Whether you've been invited to stay the weekend with some friends or invited to a holiday feast, lovely dinner party or BBQ, it's always important to bring something thoughtful for the host or hostess. As I mentioned in a previous post, it is polite to send a thank you card to the host after the event to both thank them for the invitation and to share what a great time you had with everyone (provided you actually did).

Particularly while being invited to either an intimate dinner, a holiday gathering or a dinner party, you'll want to bring a little something with you for your hard-working host. Try to select something that is practical and can be used or shared during the party itself.

If you're stuck for an idea other than a bottle of wine, here are a few below:

1. Dessert Wine- This is a great option for sophisticated wine lovers.

2. Gourmet Chocolates-I don't know anyone who doesn't appreciate quality chocolate!

3. Fresh flowers w/ a vase (these don't have to be expensive, it's the thought that counts)

4. A box of specialty tea such as those individually packaged in little triangles or loose tea.

5. A couple of packages of fun napkins in a gift bag, or those with the family's monogram.

6. Wine charms-These help separate identical glasses so the guests will know which is theirs.

7. A Pet Gift- If you are close to the host/hostess and their pet is like a child to them, bring them a treat for their pet or something specific like a fun yet inexpensive new dog collar.

8. Dish Soap/Hand Lotion-These are practical and will get used. The ones in the photo above are from Other great sets can be found at Williams Sonoma or any major discount retailer.

9. Beautiful Napkin Set- Bring a set of 4-6 cloth napkins (depending on the size of their family).

10. DIY Crafty Gifts- If you're talented in the craft department and you know the host really well, do bring your own creation- a wreath, some homemade goodies, homemade herbed vinegars, etc.

These gifts do not have to cost a fortune. In fact, I keep a couple large gift boxes in a spare closet that house smaller items that I've found all year round. These items can be found during sales or clearances where they're worth $20 but you've paid less than $5 and you'll leave an impression. This also makes birthday, Christmas and hostess gifts a breeze. I also stock up on lots of thank you and other note cards that I've picked up on sale as well as stamps so I can send off a note in no time.

If you have been invited to a potluck and were asked to bring a specific item, in this case you've done your duty. Anything extra after that point is just strictly up to your own discretion but is not at all required as you are helping the host create her menu.

Here is a link to some great hostess gifts at Check them out!

If you have some great host/hostess gift ideas I'd love to hear them!

Thanks for reading!



  1. Hi Karla, I just found your blog and wanted to say these are great ideas for hostess gifts. I would love to get your book about being classy when it comes out...I read your article just a few minutes ago about being a classy lady (re: hygiene, hair, not yelling like a fishwife, etc.!!) and it was great, I bet your book will be wonderful!

  2. Hi Kelly!

    Thank you so much! I'm glad you enjoyed my article as well as the blog post. It brings a smile to my face when women like yourself comment and let me know that the information I've shared is helpful or interesting.

    I will e-mail you with the details as soon as the book is out. :)

    Have a wonderful weekend!

  3. I too am VERY interested in you book. I have been following your articles on You are very talented. When do you expect your book to be out?


  4. Thanks Angie! :) You are too kind. I encountered some last minute trips this summer that I wasn't expecting so it has slowed my writing progress. Well, that and the fact that I am also writing two others simultaneously(it's a little tricky and I don't recommend that to anyone. lol) . I just made the decision to focus solely on my Classy book with all of the recent inquiries I've received. It should be available on or before Dec.31st I will e-mail you as soon as it is available for purchase. :)


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